I work over night stocking. I thought that I was friends with a vendor, and she nearly had me fired. and she acts like she hates my guts. What happened was I would talk to her at the store when I got off, I didn't do it all the time, just ever now and then.
This past summer I found out that she was a widow with young kids. So I started having an interest in her since I'm a single guy with no kids. Well, I told her that I liked her and was interested, and she says and I quote, "Sure you like a fat lady like me?" I told her of course I liked her, and her weight/size didn't matter to me. Then this is where I mess up, she asks me, "Well what about my kids?" and I tell her that I wasn't interested in kids. She gets all emotional and causes a scene and gets me suspended for 3 days for sexual harassment.
She was also upset about me looking at her Facebook profile, she said that she was going to give me a chance but I had blown it, and that she just wanted me to leave her alone. This happened a couple of months ago, and I have orders from management to stay away from her, and I have, but every now and then we run into each other like this morning. I was getting off duty and running to the back room to put up my back stock and ran into her in the hall way. We didn't say a word to each other and she just glared at me, and I got away from her as fast as I could.
I would like to apologize to her, and maybe be friends again. I asked my co-worker that knows her if she would give her a message for me. She said no way, she didn't want her turning on her, and she said that she thinks the girl is a little psycho crazy. My friend told me after the fact that this girl's husband had committed suicide by shooting himself in the head 5 years ago. And my friend told me that the girl freak out when I told her that I owned a gun. The only reason I told her was because she asked me if I owned one, and I remember she did freak out, so I had avoided he for a month after that
Let her overreaction be a red flag to you and count your blessings that you didn't get involved deeper. Stay away from her. If she almost got you fired for expressing your feelings to her, why would you want to be friends? You can't expect anything good to come out of this. You wanted to be friends the first time and look where it got you. Some people are just best to stay away from. Do not make an attempt to apologize. You are under orders to stay away from her and she could use it as more harassment. She will overreact again.
Preach^ I've more than learned my lesson a few times when trying to be friends with people that throw out all kinds of signs they didn't have all their marbles. So best to keep it moving and don't even look at her. How someone over reacts is always a real indicator how future interactions may go.
I think there's a really good chance that you two could still end up together. Let her know that you're now willing to meet her kids & will try to accept them if things work out between the two of you. Also, let her know that somewhere down the road, if things go well, you might consider liquidating some of your extensive gun collection. If she starts acting all crazy again, remind her that with her weight issues, kids & the baggage of her husband commiting suicide, she really doesn't have a lot of options & should appreciate you showing an interest in her. Keep us posted!
Thanks for all of the replies, a lot of good answers. I ran into her again today, I saw an opportunity and took it. I was stocking the Big K soda and left my aisle to get cup of coffee, and I turned around and saw her go down my aisle with a buggy shopping, she must of gotten off early. I passed by her and she was looking right at me with her evil eye, and I said hey, and she didn't respond, and looked past me like I wasn't there.
She goes to a Church that I joined and became a member of back in 2015 before I knew her. I haven't been there in a very long time, and I quit going there, and started going to another Church this past year. I had told her about her Church and about the other one that I joined this year, and it turns out she used to go the one that I joined this year. She left it because they ran off the assistant Pastor, and he started his own Church. So, I have membership at both Church's.
Maybe I should start going back to her Church, but she would know that I was going because of her. My neighbor across the street goes to her Church, and I told her about her the other day, and she told me that I should start going back to Church there, and if I see the girl, just nod my head at her and be friendly. She told me about their Christmas Eve service and that I should go.
I'm off this Sunday and I haven't had a Sunday off in a long time, so maybe I should start going there now. Our mutual friend the one that said no way to giving her a message is the one that got me going there in 2015. I've been crying my heart out for the last two months over her, and praying that she will come around.
I was watching the 700 club a couple of mornings ago, and the lady on there had a word of knowledge about a person with a severed relationship that desperately wanted it healed, and she said that the Lord was on it and was going to heal it, and I claimed it!!!
I knew there had to be a smart pants to pick on me, but it is okay!!! 
