On rare occasion people who are being treated badly at work will stand up for themselves and tell a coworker to stop. However, when you see someone else being repeatedly abused for no good reason why do people decide not to get involved? You have an opportunity to take a bully down, put them in their place, and let them know that no one approves of their behavior but instead people slink around being compliant to aholes so they always win in life. It makes me so mad.
I really think it depends on how you define being abused/how sensitive you are to it. As the person that stands up for themselves know how they feel and feel they need to take action. But for most others(and in my experience with most of my associates), unless it is something that is really annoying to the majority of them. They won't say much of anything. Like for instance, and I know this isn't an actual example of abuse. But at my store there is a manager that is always going around trying to pride himself on being the chipper, up beat, and all Good Morning-y to everyone. Well when he hits the Bakery, he will say either Good Morning Ladies, or everybody's name individually. Til he comes to me and he used to make an attempt at saying my name. Now it's Good Morning everybody else and if I by chance look up at him, it's "hey THERE".
Now I'm not the type of person to start needless drama or beef about anything. Don't have time or the energy for it. But clearly this dude has been doing it long enough. So I just let it go and keep it moving. However, it's rubbed 4 or so of my other associates the wrong way to the point of them asking why I don't correct him or even them correcting him for me(even though I never asked any of them to do so). And at least at one point he did say sorry I don't know why I keep forgetting your name. But he's back to doing it after they confronted him about it.
But yea, from what I've observed, unless it's ticking off one or more people. Then folks are rarely going to step up. Unless of course it's someone they are really chummy with. And I'll admit to be friendly enough with peeps around there. That I appreciated them saying something. But yea, anywhere else nobody would have cared.
Those people who won't stand up for others are usually the butt kissers who complain about everyone else or are part of the reason the bullying that is taking place (two-faced).
Those people who won't stand up for others are usually the butt kissers who complain about everyone else or are part of the reason the bullying that is taking place (two-faced).
Actually it was the two facers at my store that said something in the situation I mentioned. Hence I was so surprised. Like here are these people that talk about each other left, right, and center. And they are actually standing up for someone? Maybe cause I don't have much to say in the first place to any of them, other than a random funny quip here and there and keep it moving and back to work. But still surprised me.
